Here I go again … seeing the world from a totally different angle than so many of my peers. Tell me you think I’m wrong but please don’t hate me for my opinion.
The bandwagon is once again overloaded. Since the news that Bruce Jenner might be transgender hit the tabloids several months ago, much of the trans community has been piling on. Wishful thinking, maybe, that having an all-American guy transition would be as good for the transgender movement as it was when a US Navy SEAL went public.
But this one is very, very different. Jenner is part of a group of attention whores who, unlike the Olympic Decathlon gold medal winner himself, have little reason to be in the spotlight at all.
Now, honestly, for most transitioning there is an awkward stage. It’s that time when the male existence has been left behind yet the female appearance, with help from hormone or surgery, just hasn’t kicked in yet.
Most who transition with dignity keep a low profile at that awkward time if they have the financial means to do so. Emotional transition may have occurred but appearance wise, we’re somewhat in between. And to be honest, it’s a time when we are least likely to gain the compassion of the uninformed..
So Jenner, who likely has access to funds and image management we could only dream of, takes the long road to transition. No disguising girly look. Just facial hair removal, a trachea shave and nail polish .. and the tabloids likely had a field day searching for, and publishing, only the weirdest photos they had access to.
Let’s face it. Bruce Jenner was handsome guy, and, post transition, you can be sure she will be an attractive woman, but that time in between is, dare I say this, unsettling to the mainstream eye.
In my opinion, by the way Jenner is handling things, I get the feeling that this is just as much about greed and money as it is about moving on with life as her true self. And here’s why:
- no celebrity leaves home without an appearance strategy; “no one will see me” is never a strategy. Be cute; be funny, draw compassion; but when the ugly comments far surpass the kind, it might be time to change the strategy
- Jenner’s news, and upcoming interview with Diane Sawyer, is ramping up during the February ratings period.
- The ‘mixed emotion’ comments coming from the Kardashian kids is perfect, salable drama
But it all came off the tracks. The photos circulating are very unflattering and appear to be of a person who is not moving from male to female but who is struggling to find a place somewhere in the middle. And with a very uncomfortable scowl that reeks of tension; not someone who is happy to finally be true to themselves.
Those of us who have had friends transition know the “glow” that suddenly appears when the emotional bridge has been crossed.
The cruel, demeaning online comments about his “secret” situation are outnumbering the non-judgmental by 100 to 1 (my best estimate, of course).
So am I judging? I suppose I am, because in the world of Cox, Mock, Beck, Prakash, Pejic et al, this was the big one. The one that, if simply done with the respect and dignity almost all of us seek, could have not only opened the door but ripped the door of it’s hinges. And instead it will become a circus that will invariably make some wealthy person even lots wealthier, while the rest of us will appear to the general public to be even freakier than we are. *winks*
As I write this, news has just hit that Jenner has been involved in a motor vehicle crash that has taken someone’s life, quite possibly while being followed by trans-celeb-chasing paparazzi. OMG.
So, in closing, rumour has it that Bruce will be using the girl name Caitlyn or Kaitlyn. In the Kardashian world where every woman has a first name that starts with the letter “K” , would anyone like to bet that Ms. Jenner will choose the “K” version of that first name?
If you want to be supportive of Jenner in transition, I’m cool with that. But don’t give me any bullshit about it being good for the trans community. Because, in my opinion, it’s not.
Bruce Jenner was a Gold Medal Winner in the 1976 summer Olympics held in Montreal
Laverne Cox is an American actress, reality television star, television producer, and LGBT advocate
Janet Mock is an American writer, transgender rights activist, author
Kristin Beck is a former United States Navy SEAL who gained public attention in 2013 when she came out as a trans woman
Padmini Prakash has become India's first transgender to anchor a daily television news show
Andreja Pejic is a transgender Australian model of Bosnian Croat and Bosnian Serb ethnicity.