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Trans News Out of Hollywood Could Be ‘Jenner-cide” for Our Cause

SeleenaK_2011-10-21-14.38.17Here I go again … seeing the world from a totally different angle than so many of my peers.  Tell me you think I’m wrong but please don’t hate me for my opinion.

The bandwagon is once again overloaded.  Since the news that Bruce Jenner might be transgender hit the tabloids several months ago, much of the trans community has been piling on.  Wishful thinking, maybe, that having an all-American guy transition would be as good for the transgender movement as it was when a US Navy SEAL went public.

But this one is very, very different.  Jenner is part of a group of attention whores who, unlike the Olympic Decathlon gold medal winner himself, have little reason to be in the spotlight at all.

Now, honestly, for most transitioning there is an awkward stage.  It’s that time when the male existence has been left behind yet the female appearance, with help from hormone or surgery, just hasn’t kicked in yet.

Most who transition with dignity keep a low profile at that awkward time if they have the financial means to do so.  Emotional transition may have occurred but appearance wise, we’re somewhat in between.  And to be honest, it’s a time when we are least likely to gain the compassion of the uninformed..

So Jenner, who likely has access to funds and image management we could only dream of, takes the long road to transition.  No disguising girly look.  Just facial hair removal, a trachea shave and nail polish .. and the tabloids likely had a field day searching for, and publishing, only the weirdest photos they had access to.

Let’s face it.  Bruce Jenner was handsome guy, and, post transition, you can be sure she will be an attractive woman, but that time in between is, dare I say this, unsettling to the mainstream eye.

In my opinion, by the way Jenner is handling things, I get the feeling that this is just as much about greed and money as it is about moving on with life as her true self.  And here’s why:

  • no celebrity leaves home without an appearance strategy; “no one will see me” is never a strategy.  Be cute; be funny, draw compassion; but when the ugly comments far surpass the kind, it might be time to change the strategy
  • Jenner’s news, and upcoming interview with Diane Sawyer, is ramping up during the February ratings period.
  • The ‘mixed emotion’ comments coming from the Kardashian kids is perfect, salable drama

But it all came off the tracks.  The photos circulating are very unflattering and appear to be of a person who  is not moving from male to female but who is struggling to find a place somewhere in the middle.  And with a very uncomfortable scowl that reeks of tension; not someone who is happy to finally be true to themselves.

Those of us who have had friends transition know the “glow” that suddenly appears when the emotional bridge has been crossed.

The cruel, demeaning online comments about his “secret” situation are outnumbering the non-judgmental by 100 to 1 (my best estimate, of course).  

So am I judging?  I suppose I am, because in the world of Cox, Mock, Beck, Prakash, Pejic et al, this was the big one.  The one that, if simply done with the respect and dignity almost all of us seek, could have not only opened the door but ripped the door of it’s hinges.  And instead it will become a circus that will invariably make some wealthy person even lots wealthier, while the rest of us will appear to the general public to be even freakier than we are.  *winks*

As I write this, news has just hit that Jenner has been involved in a motor vehicle crash that has taken someone’s life, quite possibly while being followed by trans-celeb-chasing paparazzi.  OMG.

So, in closing, rumour has it that Bruce will be using the girl name Caitlyn or Kaitlyn.  In the Kardashian world where every woman has a first name that starts with the letter “K” , would anyone like to bet that Ms. Jenner will choose the “K” version of that first name?

If you want to be supportive of Jenner in transition, I’m cool with that.  But don’t give me any bullshit about it being good for the trans community.  Because, in my opinion, it’s not.

Bruce Jenner was a Gold Medal Winner in the 1976 summer Olympics held in Montreal
Laverne Cox is an American actress, reality television star, television producer, and LGBT advocate
Janet Mock is an American writer, transgender rights activist, author
Kristin Beck is a former United States Navy SEAL who gained public attention in 2013 when she came out as a trans woman
Padmini Prakash has become India's first transgender to anchor a daily television news show
Andreja Pejic is a transgender Australian model of  Bosnian Croat and Bosnian Serb ethnicity.

Crime, Punishment and Transition?

SeleenaK_2011-10-21-14.38.17So the US Pentagon is considering Bradley/Chelsea Manning’s move from a military prison to the Federal prison system where treatment for gender “issues” is available.  The dilemma they’re facing is somewhat of a catch 22 in my opinion.

Transgenders are not allowed in the US military, and therefore the treatment for this “disorder” is expulsion from the military.  But Manning can’t be discharged from the service until her sentence has been served.  And since they acknowledge that Manning is transgender, they’re forced to provide treatment or be accused of “cruel and unusual punishment”. So they’re trying to work out an arrangement with the Federal Prison System (who has treatment methods) to accept and treat her without first discharging her.

Now to anger you with my feelings.

In my opinion, Manning is a criminal and a traitor first and foremost.  She is “entitled” to nothing until her sentence has been served.  Although the expectation by the court system that someone found guilty will survive within the penal system until their sentence is served, I believe a minimums of care to make that happen should apply.

Secondly, it’s not unreasonable to believe that Bradley, not Chelsea, committed the  crimes and therefore Bradley, not Chelsea, should serve the time.  Yes, you can claim that Bradley has always been Chelsea, and yes, that’s certainly true but Manning enlisted and existed as a male, and only when there was nothing left to lose, came forward as Chelsea.

Manning is a coward.  She lacked the courage that so many trans folk are able to find that allows them to come out to the world while being fully aware of the potential consequences for doing so.

I understand desperation in a transgender world.  I’ve seen the tragic side of it. I understand the degree of desperation so many feel.  But I can’t help but wonder if Manning sold out her own country to get a government-sponsored gender transition.  Laugh if you like but I know many who feel that thirty five years in prison is a small price to pay to have a body that aligns with the brain.

Integrity means everything and  Manning has none.  She needed to put on her big girl panties, get a job, save her money and pay for her own medical care like every other trans person must. Special consideration should be reserved for those who show they can be great citizens and wonderful people .. not those who show no integrity and exhibit criminal behavior.

I believe the military, if left alone, would handle Manning  appropriately but once the Defense Secretary .. a civilian appointed by an insane regime .. get’s involved, things will quickly get silly.

I wish her a receding hairline *giggle*

Speaking of the inability to wear big girl panties, a Facebook “friend” is just over a month away from her genital reconstruction surgery date and claims to have less than 50 percent of the funds necessary to pay the bills associated with such surgery.  And she’s gone the crowd-funding route to beg for help.

For those of you who are not aware, crowd-funding is a method of raising capital, usually a few dollars each from a lot of contributors, to fund a project.  It started out as a means of bringing a product to market without conventional funding but now includes many “humanitarian” projects.   It’s the 21st century equivalent to panhandling or street begging.

“Fund me!”? Not a chance.  Within my means, I probably give more to others and to charity than most people but I’d be more likely to donate to save the Lyme-disease carrying deer tick foundation than I would to someone with that sense of entitlement.

So this is why transgender people shouldn’t be permitted in the military.  In my opinion, we’re unstable.  Because nature didn’t play by the rules when we wer assigned a gender and a brain, we’re incapable of understanding that, for a society to exist without anarchy, there must be rules .. and the rules won’t please everyone all the time.

We’ll stand behind those who’d sell out their country for estrogen, we book surgical facilities we can’t pay for and expect the world to “fund me”, and yet there are those like me who refuse to jump on anyone’s bandwagon, even when refusing to do so shows an extreme lack of compassion.

Until the world can figure out a reasonable way to deal with us,  let’s all just increase our visibility while we play by the rules, okay?   Because that is the only route to acceptance.



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