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Upcoming Event – 2016 Scarlett’s Maine Event

As some of you already know, I’m a huge fan of Scarlett’s Maine Event.  I went to the inaugural event last year (and wrote about it here) and had a wonderful time.


If this seems like the type of event that you might enjoy, plan now to attend and let me know you’ll be there.

This year’s event is September 14-18 2016 in Ogunquit Maine – “a beautiful place by the sea”.




SeleenaK_1010sAs 2015 draws to a close, I thought I should comment briefly on a few things happening on my website as I close in my 9th year.

I’ve managed to stay on track through 4 versions of the site software without changing course too much.  But what has changed is the amount of on-site interaction I get from you, as well as the amount of effort I have to put into things to keep the site away from the hackers.

I don’t know why I get the vast majority of feedback and comments via email instead of on the site directly but I’m appreciative for every comment, no matter how it gets to me.  I mention this because I see a  change.  And yes, I know … blogs, in general, have moved from cool to boring.  I get that.

But the hackers … dammit .. visit me way more than you all do! hehe!  I have nothing financial on my site any more, and don’t require members to provide personal info beyond a username and email address.  Yet the reason they want my site, and so many others, is so that they can use it as a spam host.

If successful, they will send out a guzillion spam emails before the web host realizes and shuts them down.  And they’re not even interested in email addresses stored here; yours and mine.  They have their own list and just need a previously-honourable server to send from.

So, your passwords now must be big ugly long things in hopes of making them unguessable. Your computer’s IP address is  compared to a “ban list” before you’re able to log in and I manually compare the country new users claim to be from with the country where they’re logging in from to ensure a match or else I delete them.

Lots of work, really.

But I think my best options are:

  1. charge a small fee for membership.  Spammer won’t pay, but 99% of you wouldn’t either.
  2. remove the entire membership/sign in process entirely.  This would remove a big part of the mechanism spammers use to gain access but it also leaves all my  content (which I work so hard to produce) wide open.
  3. shut the site down and move my content over to one of the social media platforms, where security is ~their~issue and not mine

I won’t ask for your opinion on this because .. well, you know.  But I thought I’d mention this here to ask you for your patience when logging in, and ask that you report any issues you encounter to me in case I made a mistake while trying to repel the hackers.

SeleenaK_0735sOn a personal note,  my circle of friends is holding it’s own.  Not growing, not shrinking.  Some acquaintances, it seems, are not impressed by the way I present myself in a casual setting and it’s been mentioned to me twice in the past month.   Both times it felt very judgmental.  I have a couple genetic women friends who are also judged regularly when in public because they’re just not sloppy or plain enough for the no makeup, sweat pants and flip-flop crowd.  Oh well.  My real friends like me as I am.

Silly as it may sound, I’m okay being judged by the uninformed, or the religious, or up-tight public at large but I just can’t deal with it coming from within the community.   So I wish them well but I disengage.

I’m going to miss the First Event conference in Boston in January because of a  family commitment which I’m really, really looking forward to. But I’ll  be at Keystone again this year in March.  I don’t do casual well enough (lol) for the Spring Fling crowd so I’ll probably skip their May event.  Yet Scarlett’s Maine Event in Ogunquit Maine will be a definite ‘yes!’.

My darling and I just might do another mega roadtrip across the US again.  If I do, I’ll try to visit with a few of you along the way.

And finally, I looking forward to spending more time with my friends Pauline, Dianne and Dea.  Let’s all put on our dancing shoes .. and not dance at all.   hehe

2016 is looking like a fun year!

Happy New Year from my family to yours!

Scarlett’s Maine Event


I just got home from the first annual Scarlett’s Maine Event, and it was everything I dreamed it would be and more.
Centered at the Meadowmere Resort in Ogunquit Maine, the September 9-13 event is the brainchild of Scarlett from Scarlett’s Makeovers in Thompson CT.  If you’ve been to any of the major  transgender event in the US in the last several years, you’ve probably run into Scarlett.   Okay, I may be overstating her attendance but she goes to lots of events.  She’s a very talented, hard working makeup artist with a deep and personal understanding of the trans community and is an absolute pleasure to be around. She’s also gorgeous and can rock a fab pairs of heels.

This event is unlike many of the others because of it’s totally a la cart pricing.  It was only  $35 to register (goodie bag included with lots of helpful info, stuff and a very cool event pendant) and registrants pick from the list of add-ons according to their preferences and budgets.  There are no bundled activities like so many other events where we invariably end up paying for things that don’t interest us.

The MeadowmeSeleena_K20150909_203650sre Resort is one of the largest resorts in the beautiful town of Ogunquit Maine.  It’s a sprawling property with several interconnected buildings, indoor and outdoor swimming pools, a hot tub, bar and beautifully landscaped grounds.  And the hotel was quite busy during our stay .. unusually busy, it appears, for that time of the year.
Dinner each night, for those who chose to dine with the group, were served at Jonathan’s; the fine dining restaurant on an adjoining property was not only conveniently close for those of us who like to drink and not drive but the food  was fabulous!  Salads, entrees and desserts were all totally yummy.  A wonderful dinner for just a $40 add-on per night.
Efficient, attentive and personable wait staff too.  I was able to chat briefly with Larry, the manager.  (I hope my memory isn’t failing me regarding his name!)  A classy guy, soft spoken, generous (he paid for our drinks the first night!) , very professional and quite happy to have us there.


Some of the add-on activities were:

Scarlett also brilliantly provided a hospitality suite at the Meadowmere complete with water, soft drinks, coffee and snacks so there was always a place to hang out.

In Summary
at the end of a long day and after mucho drinkies. ©SeleenaK.com

Value related to the cost:  Excellent.  The complementary large continental breakfast buffet was great and meant most of us didn’t need lunch. And the event cost, with add-ons, was totally reasonable.
The Venue:  Very good.  The Meadowmere Resort is a wonderful hotel.  Every staff contact I had was fabulous.  My room and room rate was fine;  the hotel property was meticulously maintained.
The City: Ogunquit is a very cool, artsy seaside resort. Think Provincetown but more elegant, less hilly, less expensive and less ‘in your face” LGBT friendly. Typical Maine architecture with lots of boutique shops and very few national chain stores. For $2, several trolleys on a circuit will take you to most of the cool places in town and bring

Perkin's Cove ©SeleenaK.com
Perkin’s Cove ©SeleenaK.com

you back as well. Lobsters, fishing, boating, beaches.  Everything you’d expect by the sea. Oh, and the Marginal Way .. a very cool hiking path at the edge of the cliffs along the seashore .. very picturesque and an easy walk on a paved path. (I did the entire walk in ballet slippers while carrying a heavy camera bag.) Ogunquit did seem like a very trans friendly town.  No rude or even inquisitive comments at all for this girl, even though I rarely dress totally age or venue appropriate.

I felt like I’d been misplaced in the cosmos and I belonged in Maine.
– Terry Goodkind

The Attendees:  Not as many attention whores, egomaniacs, party animals, shy newbies and seasoned veterans as one would expect.  Yes, the ‘dance club girls” seemed to keep to themselves but everyone else was very easy to be with.   And there was a relatively high percentage of spouses in attendance too.  Always a good thing when Kim comes with me.  But to be totally honest, this was one of the nicest groups of people I’m ever spent time with.  I think it all stems from Scarlett herself.  You know that old “birds of a feather” idiom?  Well, sweet gravitates toward sweet.

Nubble Lighthouse boat cruise with Finestkind
Nubble Lighthouse boat cruise aboard FinestKind Cruises ©SeleenaK.com

Speaking of sweet, my sweetie and I felt lucky to have met (and fell in love with) a couple couples (lol) who we look forward to spending more time with in the future.  But to be totally honest, good friends from Canada were there too so it would have been fine if we hadn’t connected with anyone.

Dining:  The included continental breakfast at the hotel was very good while dinner each night at Jonathan’s was fabulous.  I can’t say enough about the restaurant; it’s decor, the food and the service.

our keepsake pendant! ©SeleenaK.com

The Event:  Very good. The day I arrived,  it was very hot … mid 90° temps but it cooled off lots and the rest of the week was very comfortable.  But honestly, this event was about the people.

From the keepsake pendant in the goodie bag to the Farewell Brunch, everything was nicely done. The Nubble Lighthouse Boat Cruise was a highlight for me as were the dinners.  Did I mention Jonathan’s?  haha!!

I regret not signing up for the Million Dollar Quartet at the Playhouse .. it’s a live theater musical about the night Elvis, Jerry Lee Lewis, Carl Perkins and Johnny Cash all came together at a recording studio in Memphis for one of the most iconic jam sessions ever.  Everyone who attended said it was fabulous!

Will I return to Scarlett’s Maine Event?  Absolutely.  Indications from Scarlett is that she plans to do it again next year and I’ll be there.  I’ll also do my best to help spread the word once a date is confirmed.  It’s the type of event many would appreciate.

I predict good things for this event and wouldn’t be surprised if attendance grows exponentially next year, as it should.

Scarlett’s Maine Event was that good!