Category Archives: Miscellaneous Ramblings

Remembrance Day 2017 – Lest We Forget

For the first time in the history of my country, our despicable Prime Minister Trudeau will not be in the country to lay a wreath at the tomb of the unknown soldier.

He may have forget but we will remember and we will NOT “take a knee.”

Please pause for a moment at 11:00 am this morning to remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice.


I’d Love To Help

I’m always looking to get involved, to stay engaged.  And for the longest time, I’ve wondered if this is an area where I can actually help others in some small way.

You see, while moving around the ‘trans web’ .. blogs, websites, chat rooms .. I see a lot of pain, a lot of carnage, a lot of well intended bad advice.  We come out to spouses, kids, friends and work associates just as we’re told by our peers and things get ugly.

Yes, the rabbit hole is there but I honestly believe there’s a way around it for many of us without falling down the hole in exactly the same way as so many before us.

I have no experience with how therapists recommend we tell others about our deep dark secret because, it would appear,  we only see a therapist after the damage is done, to help us pick up the pieces.  In fact, I have no training in this area at all and bring nothing more to the topic than open-minded experience watching other’s pain and being a good listener and shoulder to cry on. .

In my opinion, the biggest lie propagated within the trans community is “If they love you, they’ll understand” ~ me

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So what I’m proposing is to create a resource .. a website  maybe .. with ‘best practices’ based on emotionless common sense and feedback from others. And ideally a section for blindsided spouses and family members to get practical info on why it happened and what to expect.  Something for us to read .. to consider .. before we tell, and something for them to read .. to consider ..  after they hear.

So as I mull this over in my head, email me your thoughts or comment here.  Or better yet, send me YOUR advice .. the “Do’s” and “Don’t’s” from your angle. And if you know a therapist who might be interested in contributing, please let me know that too.

When it feels so right, it’s easy to become delusional about the way the world perceives us.  This is often known as The Pink Fog, and doesn’t give us much of a chance to make it work. – me, again

The progressive uprising of the last 8 or 9 years has made us bold and demanding and has created fictitious monsters for us to blame for our pain but it hasn’t offered a path to happiness.

I’d love to be able to help with that.

Hopeful or Hopeless? I Choose the Former

seleenak_134644webI get it now.

After being in “shush” mode for several months,  and at the prompting of several people (“never shush, Seleena, ever!”)  I’m now feeling like it’s safe to “speak” again.   And, strangely, the US Presidential election is the catalyst.

No, I’m not a Donald J. Trump fan … quite the contrary …  but, since the US election, I feel exonerated to some degree for my feelings about the hateful left.  I now realize that I’m not alone in my disdain for them, or rather that my feelings might very well be shared by the majority, many of whom I respect immensely.

In my opinion, hatred and divisive feelings have grown exponentially in the last 8 years to a point worse than at any time my life and it weighs heavily on me.

I cherish nothing more than democracy, and the behaviors we’ve been seeing from the so-called “progressives”, especially post-election, indicate that a great many feel that democracy only works if their views rule supreme.  Not exactly progressive at all.

It will take some time to undo the “thought police”, politically correct. my-way-or-the-highway society they were able to build in 8 years but the ‘undo’ has begun.

Even Oprah Winfrey gets it.  (‘Gave Me Hope’ – ‘Everybody Can Take a Deep Breath Now’)

As I travel through life, disagreeing with more of my “sisters” than I agree with, please know that I would never want to change how you feel.  I respect free thought too much to ever do that.

But in expressing how you feel, and hearing my feelings, it could very well indicate that we have little in common.  And that’s okay too!

So Brexit has happened, a bit of a revolution has started in the US,  and there are enough-is-enough rumblings along this line in France and Italy too. So in the near future, it just might be okay to come out of the repressed shadows with our own personal feelings without being labelled a hater.  Though labelled I was.

I don’t need a community to hide behind.  Millions have spoken .. the vast majority aren’t radical  monsters or religious right extremists at all .. and my feelings of love and hatred have been validated.  I will no longer be judged … for my age, my ethnicity, my nationality, my political views, how far down this path I plan to go, for how much of my time I spend in girl mode, nor where (and how often) I’m out in public, or how I choose to dress when I’m out there.

And a silly man in the US made it happen for me.  Yikes!

So, have a nice life and I will too.  And avoid my blog if it offends you.

“Know when to ‘shush’, Seleena.”

SeleenaK20160309_220013sGood advice .. from me to me.  Just wish I would have heard that advice a little sooner.  But avoiding the politics of life is just not easy these days.

So on that note, I haven’t had much to say here lately.  But I think that’s okay.

Other that the upcoming visit from sweeties D and C (which I’m really, really looking forward to), I’m still laying low and staying in a world where smiling is easy.

Because smiling is important, isn’t it?

Upcoming Event – 2016 Scarlett’s Maine Event

As some of you already know, I’m a huge fan of Scarlett’s Maine Event.  I went to the inaugural event last year (and wrote about it here) and had a wonderful time.


If this seems like the type of event that you might enjoy, plan now to attend and let me know you’ll be there.

This year’s event is September 14-18 2016 in Ogunquit Maine – “a beautiful place by the sea”.



All Quiet Here

SeleenaK_20160131_125438sSorry I’ve been  so quiet lately.  But it appears that I have little to say if I’m not bitching about someone or something.

A close friend (I’m not sure if I should mention by name here or not) recently sent me a her “memoirs”.  The story of how her trans life began and how it progressed, and it was wonderful to read.

I had written something similar for an old version of my website but there’s really nothing here anymore to tell my story, and I think it’s more than a little unique.  Maybe I should go down that path.

Or more about this beautiful/ugly transgender community …. the one that I’ve stopped trying to fit into.

Or sex!  But that’s kinda hard to write about without making my darling or old playmates uncomfortable.

I’ll put some serious thought into blog topics while trying my best to avoid religion and politics, but in the meantime, if you can think of something I should babble about, please email me at the address on my Contact page.


SeleenaK_1010sAs 2015 draws to a close, I thought I should comment briefly on a few things happening on my website as I close in my 9th year.

I’ve managed to stay on track through 4 versions of the site software without changing course too much.  But what has changed is the amount of on-site interaction I get from you, as well as the amount of effort I have to put into things to keep the site away from the hackers.

I don’t know why I get the vast majority of feedback and comments via email instead of on the site directly but I’m appreciative for every comment, no matter how it gets to me.  I mention this because I see a  change.  And yes, I know … blogs, in general, have moved from cool to boring.  I get that.

But the hackers … dammit .. visit me way more than you all do! hehe!  I have nothing financial on my site any more, and don’t require members to provide personal info beyond a username and email address.  Yet the reason they want my site, and so many others, is so that they can use it as a spam host.

If successful, they will send out a guzillion spam emails before the web host realizes and shuts them down.  And they’re not even interested in email addresses stored here; yours and mine.  They have their own list and just need a previously-honourable server to send from.

So, your passwords now must be big ugly long things in hopes of making them unguessable. Your computer’s IP address is  compared to a “ban list” before you’re able to log in and I manually compare the country new users claim to be from with the country where they’re logging in from to ensure a match or else I delete them.

Lots of work, really.

But I think my best options are:

  1. charge a small fee for membership.  Spammer won’t pay, but 99% of you wouldn’t either.
  2. remove the entire membership/sign in process entirely.  This would remove a big part of the mechanism spammers use to gain access but it also leaves all my  content (which I work so hard to produce) wide open.
  3. shut the site down and move my content over to one of the social media platforms, where security is ~their~issue and not mine

I won’t ask for your opinion on this because .. well, you know.  But I thought I’d mention this here to ask you for your patience when logging in, and ask that you report any issues you encounter to me in case I made a mistake while trying to repel the hackers.

SeleenaK_0735sOn a personal note,  my circle of friends is holding it’s own.  Not growing, not shrinking.  Some acquaintances, it seems, are not impressed by the way I present myself in a casual setting and it’s been mentioned to me twice in the past month.   Both times it felt very judgmental.  I have a couple genetic women friends who are also judged regularly when in public because they’re just not sloppy or plain enough for the no makeup, sweat pants and flip-flop crowd.  Oh well.  My real friends like me as I am.

Silly as it may sound, I’m okay being judged by the uninformed, or the religious, or up-tight public at large but I just can’t deal with it coming from within the community.   So I wish them well but I disengage.

I’m going to miss the First Event conference in Boston in January because of a  family commitment which I’m really, really looking forward to. But I’ll  be at Keystone again this year in March.  I don’t do casual well enough (lol) for the Spring Fling crowd so I’ll probably skip their May event.  Yet Scarlett’s Maine Event in Ogunquit Maine will be a definite ‘yes!’.

My darling and I just might do another mega roadtrip across the US again.  If I do, I’ll try to visit with a few of you along the way.

And finally, I looking forward to spending more time with my friends Pauline, Dianne and Dea.  Let’s all put on our dancing shoes .. and not dance at all.   hehe

2016 is looking like a fun year!

Happy New Year from my family to yours!

Website Changes

Hi Everyone,

Well, I’ve done it again.  Made more changes to my website.

Something happened several months ago that caused things to not work as designed so the best remedy seemed to be to just redesign from scratch.

I think the previous version looked a little better than this new one but this is more functional.

Hope you like.

Talented But in an Inflexible Career?

I have a fantasy.

Not a sexy one this time, although I do have many of those too.  This one is about the trans folk I communicate with and the struggle many have being unable to work in their preferred gender presentation.

I don’t know how typical this is in the transgender world but the majority of those we associate with .. both tgirls and admirers .. seem to be high achievers.  People who are very good at what they do, or have done, to earn a living.  And the retired ones often came from exceptional careers too.

20140131_154601sProfessionals, leaders, creative people, entrepreneurs, salespeople, marketing folks, teachers, tradespeople; even those with less notable jobs have a spark that would burst into a four-alarm blaze given the opportunity.

If it were only possible to tap into this brilliance in some collaborative way.

We’re so connected these days that a ‘work from home’ situation is simple, thorough, efficient and cost effective, no matter where we’re located in the world, and I just know many might even consider a salary reduction until things got going.

There are also retired girls; some who left their day job way before they were ready to spend their days in a rocking chair just because the charade grew tiresome yet they’re now looking for something to sink their teeth  into.

Do we all have any common marketable skill or knowledge?  Probably not but what so many of us do have in common is talent and capability.

A collaboration could easily cross international borders too.

Imagine waking up on workdays, throwing on some lipstick and heels and digging in to the challenges of the day.  I do this now to some degree but am well aware that a team can accomplish much more than the sum of it’s players.  Even admirers might prefer to spend their days communication and collaborating with those they admire.

Are you ready for a change? Do we need to talk?  Do we need to brainstorm this?  Or is this a fantasy that should be filed next to the one with the two Victoria’s Secret models in nylons and heels and the guy with the huge bulge in his pants on the corporate jet headed for Paris?

Rest in Peace, Robin WIlliams

Robin_Williams_2011a_(2)The news of Robin Williams’ sudden death has shocked much of the world.  Tragic for us, certainly, but it brings peace now to a tormented soul.

I can say that I wasn’t surprised, but you probably wouldn’t believe me.  Yet those of us non-medical folks who study human nature know the signs all to well.

Being the constant buffoon, the life of the party, a party animal .. is almost always the sign of a spirit in distress.  John Belushi, Freddy Prinze,  Lenny Bruce, Chris Farley  .. all led troubled lives on the inside, (in my opinion) even though they appeared to be having way too much fun.

Although I feel absolutely terrible for everyone close to him, I don’t pity Robin Williams at all.  I’m a firm believer that for some, suicide is a reasonable solution.  And I trust that it was the right solution for him.

I’m sorry if that offends you or if you think less of me for saying this but pain just can’t continue, for anyone, indefinitely.  It’s just not fair.

And to the old cliche that “suicide is the coward’s way out”, I say bullshit.  I think it takes a huge amount of commitment and resolve to do the deed, knowing painfully well how negatively impacted close friends and family will be.

Let’s respect his fateful decision, forget how he left us and remember only the joy he brought to all of us.

Thank you, Mr Williams, for brightening the world of so many others, and for so many years.

Here’s a must read from David Wong on the topic at .  Quite possibly, the  most honest words written on the topic.  Don’t take what I think too seriously but please do yourself a favor and read David’s article.  It just might give you some insight into someone in your life.


Use of the image at the top of this article:  “Robin Williams 2011a (2)” by Eva Rinaldi → Flickr: Robin Williams – →This file has been extracted from another image: File:Robin Williams 2011a.jpg.. Licensed under Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 2.0 via Wikimedia Commons –

She Wins Things, He Doesn’t .. and Lady Sonia

It’s strange how this works. My girl side is much luckier than my guy side.  She wins things – little things, but he never does. Let me tell you about my latest.

I’ve always been a big fan of businesses and personalities who actually use social media. It makes them interesting,  approachable and more attractive to someone like me.

SeleenaK_2886sOne of those personalities I’ve followed for along time on Twitter is Lady Sonia, the British MILF porn lady. Her “schtick” is the unfaithful wife fantasy. I’m not sure if she or her husband does the social media work but she’s quite entertaining. Sexy, interactive, fun and very real.  She also posts some very hot “teaser” photos.

So a few days ago, she asked the question “Quick competition for a free 24 hour pass to what are the *BEST* sheer-to-waist pantyhose (gusset-less) of course?” I pounced with an answer “Cecilia de Raphael 320’s” and won!  So I had tons of quality porn to watch for 24 hours.

Lady Sonia is a very sexy, well-spoken, charming woman with a pretty face, a fabulous body and very large boobs. She almost always wears hosiery and stilettos, her shoot location is fabulous, she plays with lots of gorgeous, extremely hung guys (some black, some white) and even some who are site members. She does some light fetish stuff and occasionally has other women join in but the core of her site is vagina sex, big cocks, blow jobs and hand jobs. Notably missing is anal and girl-girl.

My tastes are a little too pervy to be a member of her site but, I have to say, the action is hot. You can check her out here.

Now, back to my contest winning answer.  If you’re a pantyhose fan, you have to check out Cecilia de Raphael.  Italian-made and quite luxurious, they have many great styles.  My personal favourite are the 320’a.  They’re totally seamless, including the gusset area.  Although that look is quite interesting on a girl like me, I think it works best on a genetic woman.  And for those who are into oral sex through pantyhose, the 320’s are totally yummy.  Not inexpensive but worth the price, in my opinion.

They also make what could be the shiniest pantyhose on the market for those of us into the ultra high-gloss leg look.

Do a web search or visit your fave retailer.  Check them out!

What Have You Done For Me Lately?



Is that what it’s all about?

I’ve noticed that my website traffic has taken a big hit recently. And blog comments are at an all-time low.

I assume a lot of this is related to the latest change to my site software.  Keeping loyal followers becomes more of an issue when you force everyone to join again.  I apologize for that but unfortunately I just didn’t have the time to figure out how to bring members and their login information forward after my hasty move from the old software.

By `losing`your user info, it’s like I wasn’t loyal to you so why should you be loyal to me?

Or maybe I’m just getting lost in an internet world that continues to add content exponentially.

Either way, this is me, I`m a happy chick and this is where I’m at.

Thank you to those who have been able to track me done here and especially to those who take the time to comment!  Love ya!

This Site and the Heartbleed Vulnerability

heartbleedFirst off, please be aware that the recently-reported Heartbleed is not a virus.  You won’t “get” anything on your computer and there are no infected websites.  It’s just a vulnerability that a hacker could use to intercept username and password info in transit when you log in to a secure server that uses a particular type of encryption.

You can usually tell if a website is using any type of encryption to log in the the log in url begins with https instead of the usual http.

If you’re concerned about the Heartbleed vulnerability on my website or would just like to change your password, login here . Then in the upper right corner of the next screen, mouse over your username and select Edit My Profile. From there you can change your password.

While my site is certified secure on the server side and is totally virus/malware free, it’s been built using the WordPress framework (that’s how you log in) and WordPress has not yet been certified free of the Heartbleed vulnerability.

I’ll update here when I get the “all clear” but please understand that the very worst thing that could happen would be that someone uses your password for this site to log in as you and possibly make a comment using your (usually fake) identity.  That’s it! There’s no way anyone could capture any of your other private information from visiting my website.

Website Update and Conference Plans

I thought it was time to check in with you to tell you how things are progressing with my new-look website.

I continue to add photos to the galleries in the Members area.  Lots there … tons more to add, and I’m adding daily right now.

SeleenaK_3686My video page, also in the Members area, needs a new, more polished look.  I’ll work on that eventually but for now, all the videos are there.

I’m making progress in bringing all my blog entries to the new site.  I’m working backwards chronologically and everything from today to early 2010 has now been restored.

Whew!  Lots of work!

On a more fun note, I’m seriously thinking of attending Gals Spring Fling in eastern Ontario next month.  I’ve wanted to attend this one for years but it always fell around a weekend that was difficult for me.

The town of Gananoque (pronounced gan-a-NOCK-way) is in the heart of the  Thousand Islands on the banks of the mighty St. Lawrence River.  It’s one of the most beautiful areas of Ontario.

The Thousand Islands extends on the Canadian side from Wolfe Island near Kingston, On., to the Brockville narrows at Brockville, On.. On the American side they extend from Tibbets Point on Lake Ontario to Morristown, N.Y. – per

The event is presented by Ottawa-based Gender Mosaic with help from Toronto-based Xpressions.  According to everyone who’s attended, Sophia, Amanda and staff create a totally wonderful experience.

And the town truly welcomes us with open arms.  This is very incredible for a town with a year round population just over 5,000.  But they do love us!  Or our money!  Or both!  haha!

If you’re planning to attend, please let me know.  A comment here or email to the address on my Contact  Me page would be fabulous.

Website Update and Garter Belt Help

Well it’s time to start updating my site again. I hope to get back to posting some new work as well as some “Best of ..”. Hopefully you’ll find something of interest in the coming weeks.

An online friend (thanks Eric!) answered my plea for garter belts with short straps. Since I prefer to wear my stockings ‘butt-high’, I’ve been forced to cut and resew the straps on new garter belts. Hopefully this is a thing of the past. Two new ultra-short strap garter belts arrived today from .. one black and one white. I’ll try them soon and hopefully they’ll be perfect for me. I’ll let you know.

Happy Easter to those of you who celebrate it!

Website Changes and Clippette

As you might have noticed, I’ve rewritten my website. Not too much has changed really but I think you’ll agree that the site looks a little more professional and is a bit more “click friendly’. It also should scale a little better on different screen sizes and on handheld devices.

The only page that didn’t make it over to this new world is my Friends page. It was always the least viewed page on my site and most of the photos were becoming outdated. I may bring the page back at some point .. not sure.

The only other noticeable changes here are to my Photo and Video Galleries. I’ve decided to use Adobe Flash for my photos since it lets me show them to you in a larger size and a better resolution and yet protects me a little by not giving you the ability to save them to your computer quite so easily. I’m not sure if Apple still has a problem with Flash, but if so, “i-devices” will be out of luck.

Sure, some of you will still find a way to steal and redistribute my images but please know that my involvement on the Clippette site now gives my work documented “revenue potential” so the cost of image theft and redistribution has dramatically increased if you get caught.

I also now have the ability to host video clips right here on my site. Not sure how much of that I’ll do going forward but it gives me the ability to present the type of content that YouTube doesn’t allow. Hey! Stop smiling, you perv! 🙂

For the time being my Photo Gallery will be a combination of new and previously-presented content but my video updates will be all new stuff. Things that are destined for my Clippette store will still appear here on my site, but only as a teaser.

So expect my Friday updates to resume at some point in time and my blog entries to happen occasionally.

Let me know how you like the new look and feel of my site. And if you make it over to Clippette, spending 3 or 4 dollars won’t kill ya. It’s a small compensation for those who work so hard to entertain you .. usually at great personal expense.

Speaking of my Clippette store, I’m planning something a little personal for those of you who are kind enough to make a purchase if I can work out the logistics.

More to come in the near future.

Clippette Status Update and Image Theft

I thought I’D check in with you to let you know how things are going for me these days.

First off, my Clippette experiment is pretty much going as I thought it would. After an initial flurry of sales, things have levelled off lots. The only thing that surprised me is that the Clippette site appears to be evolving into a mostly femme domme site. So in that arena, I’m happy to get the attention I’m getting.

Aside from that, I’ve been staying busy. I can eventually share some of the work I’ve been doing lately, and some I can’t share. But it’s been fun and challenging for me.

As expected, my site traffic here has dropped off considerably since I stopped doing weekly updates. But for those of you who still visit, I’m excited to tell you that I’ve been rewriting my site.

The content will be pretty much the same but the look and feel will be slightly different and it will appear lots more professional. The site you’re familiar with is the very first site I ever built and isn’t really representative of my current abilities.

I’ve been bothered lots lately by image theft, personally and on the internet in general, so I still haven’t decided whether to show you large high resolution un-watermarked images or not. I’d absolutely love to but need to continue to weigh the pros and cons. Although I’ve tried to shrug it off, internet image theft and the feeling of entitlement shared by so many continues to bug me. Eventually I’ll learn to go with the flow but I’m not ready just yet.

I take a lot of care doing my photos and videos and pay close attention to detail. I’d really like for you to see what I’ve done without having to strain your eyes or look through a copyright watermark.

I’ll give you more information soon!

Clippette Status Update

Well, about 10 days have gone by since Clippette opened it’s cyber-doors and I moved some content there, and I’m thrilled with the response. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Oh sure, I knew that Clippette would catch on but what surprised me is the response my photos are getting. I’ve always believed that in the “pay for anything online” industry, the traffic a t-girl should expect is between 8 and 10% of the traffic a female receives, assuming the quality is the same or comparable. And I appear to be tracking on the high side of those numbers. And this is compared to some world class females there like Tina Grant. Woohoo!

Now I realize this is not a reflection on my in-the-flesh appearance but on my photos .. and that’s where my passion lies.

The thing about the digital download sales gig that I’m having to adjust to is the nameless, faceless nature of the transaction. You see, I know what was purchased but I don’t know who purchased it. And I’d really like to express my appreciation but am unable to. The site has strict privacy policies to protect your identity.

So if you’re one of the awesome people who has bought from my Clippette store, please drop me a quick email either from here or from the email link in my Clippette store.. Please tell me what you bought and when. A huge thank you to those who have done this!

I’ve never been a “show me da money!” person but I do feel there’s something very flattering and even somewhat intimate happening when someone likes what they see enough to get out their credit card. And it sure weeds out those who toss compliments around a little too freely. hehe!

And right now, this is the best way to get my attention. Gawd, I can’t believe I said that!

But my conscience is telling me that my stuff is priced a little high so I think I’ll reduce prices a little today even though my views-to-sales ratio disagrees with my conscience.

Could my first pair of Louboutin stilettos be in my future? Maybe!

Side note: A funny thing happened to me on one of the social networking sites. I got a complimentary message there from someone asking if I’d be their “friend”. “I’d be happy to! Please feel free to invite me” was my reply, to which this person answered, and I paraphrase, “I can’t right now. I’ve been banned from sending invitations for a while because they think I’ve sent too many invites in a short period of time”.

Wow, talk about making a girl feel special! 🙂

Introducing Clippette!

Recently, my friends Lisa Norman and Nick Danger asked me to be a part of a venture they’ve been working on. I was flattered, honored and excited to be even a small part of their project.

Both Lisa, the famous Stocking Vixen, and Nick have been fetish bloggers for years and are also the owners of Backseam Enterprises, which owns, a site that I’ve been a member of for quite some time. Wonderful people .. intelligent and sexy yet down to earth and with a superb eye for quality fetish content.


I’d like to introduce you to . Clippette is a group of digital download stores where you can browse and purchase video clips and high resolution photos. Market research says that this type of a la carte shopping is the wave of the future and is already bigger business than pay websites.

Lisa and Nick were able to coax Tina Grant, “one of the most downloaded women on the internet”, out of retirement to join them at Clippette as well as Tabitha, the “UK-based fetish and art noir model” from Tabitha’s Tower, and others too!

As many of you know, I’ve been looking for something to direct my energy towards and there is nothing in the world that I’d like to support more than Lisa and Nick, and Clippette.

Initially, I planned to just help test the new software, which I must say is very slick and with a great look and feel. But after putting lots of thought into it, I decided that I too would open a store there.

I’ll continue to put photos up on this site but won’t be updating weekly as I have in the past. I’ll update the content here with smaller photo albums whenever they’re ready and those of you who would prefer the high resolution versions of what you see here in larger albums, a quick trip to Clippette and they’re available to you!

This is a big step for me and I’m really looking forward to it! I’m really not expecting to sell a lot but those of you who have asked for larger versions of my photos will be able to get them at my Clippette store, if you choose to.

I’ll be adding most of the photo albums you’ve seen here over the years yo my Clippette store and will be shooting new content whenever I can. But I won’t be posting any more full length videos here or on my YouTube channel .. I’ll be putting them on Clippette but will likely add only a teaser here.

Also, as of right now, I don’t expect to be changing my content too much. I think I should leave the she-male porn to the younger hotties but who knows. I may experiment in that area a little but I still firmly believe that what you don’t see is usually much sexier than what you do see.

So to those of you who have been loyal visitors to my site over the years, thank you! But don’t leave me now. This site will remain active and I’ll post samples of anything I do in the future for you. I’ll also update my blog occasionally.

Wish me luck! And please, spread the word about Clippette .

Website Content Reduced – I’m Sorry

Well, it was time for a change. I’ve been doing this thingy for several years now and thoroughly enjoyed it but I’d like to try something different for a while.

As you may have noticed, the photo content here has been reduced dramatically, and you now have to look at me through a big copyright watermark. But I’m not disappearing totally and will be able to tell you about it next week.

Until then, stay hot!


Happy New Year 2011!

As the year draws to a close I thought I’d take a few moments to reflect .. cliché, I know.

It’s really been a “close but no cigar” year for me. My every day life has been wonderful although a little frustrating at times .. hehe!. And I continue to look for a friendship in the T-Girl community with someone who understands.

Mid way through the year I came to the conclusion that “being there” for anyone who needed me was taking it’s toll on me emotionally so I decided I needed to stop that. Of course those closest to me can always count on my undying support but I’ve been successful in not getting involved with other girls who need someone to talk to or someone to help them over the bumps that life throws at girls like us. It’s going against my nature to not help but it’s something I need to do.

SeleenaK_1000sI scared a few people on YouTube who can’t read (teehee!), provided support (the last time) for a few girls who needed that, bruised a huge ego irreparably, provided a little “jerkin’ material” for a few guys (at least), met just over 50 of my online girlfriends in person, renovated my studio and did a little traveling. Even had a little health issue that cleared itself totally prior to scheduled minor surgery. And our best friends from the desert came to visit. That was definitely a highlight of my year!

All in all, a great 2010.

In my “web bimbo” world, things are changing. I used to attract visitors who were simply appreciative of my efforts. The comments, compliments and occasional gift I received appeared to be from the heart and came with no strings. But there’s been a shift towards demands, expectations and the relentless pursuit of specific interests. And it’s wearing thin. Please .. ask once, twice maybe, then drop it. It’s not only about you! *giggling* Please know that  if the intent is to compliment, it’s having the reverse affect.

I think my photos have improved and that makes me feel great! I still wish I had some help doing “out and about” pics but for now I’ll continue to do what I can solo, and with the help of an occasional “guest photographer” whenever the opportunity presents itself.

I’m hoping to rewrite my website code this year to make it a little more friendly to all browsers as well as handhelds. It’s currently optimized for Internet Explorer and looks a little strange with some of the other browsers.

But the biggest change I’m considering is to move to a pay site format. I never thought I could get my heart around that concept but only doing things for others, and for free, is a (big) emotional and (small) financial drain on me. The content would be very inexpensive since it isn’t about the money at all. I just need the site to feel a little more give-and-take.

So, from everyone here at SeleenaK dot com (I always wanted to say that but there’s only Kim and I here .. hehe!), have a Happy New Year!

May 2011 be your very best year ever!

Crossdressing in the Media

Here is yet another example of crossdressing in the mainstream.  Actually this commercial follows two trends.  The “stupid white guy” trend as well as the crossdressing trend.

All this mainstream treatment of “this thing we do” has got me thinking about a new career opportunity. So as of this minute, I’m making myself available for TV commercial appearances, complete with the bulge!

Do the annual advertising awards ceremonies (the ADDY’s or CLIO’s, I think) have a red carpet? I always thought it would be cool to get out of a limo, all leggy, and walk the red carpet to the sound of camera motor drives.

On second thought, maybe I should just make a trip to the local carpet store and buy my own.

Autumn; and Crossdressing in Advertizing

Autumn is here. Soon my world will change from green and lush to crisp and golden .. and then on to something that looks post-nuclear warfare.  Gawd, I hate leafless trees and an overcast sky.

Oh well .. I’ve put the white clothes away until next year (as if I have many white things .. lol) and have bought an awesome pair of leather gloves to keep my hand warm on those cold evenings, in case you’re not here to keep me warm.

Here’s a little commercial I thought I’d share with you.   Some of you can relate to this 😮

My Website is Two Years Old!

SeleenaK dot com turns 2 years old today!

The last couple years have been interesting, to say the least.  A big learning experience for me as I continue to do what I like doing while trying to measure your reaction to it.  Sometimes your comments are an indication and other times I go to the page hits for insight.

I was expecting that I would have found a clear direction for this site by now but this is not the case.  So until that light goes on, I’ll just continue having fun.

I think my images have improved since I started doing this and I’m grateful for that.

I’ve met some very nice people and received travel and gift offers.  I’ve justified a bit more photog equipment yet I still struggle justifying the expense of video gear even though my “Just Legs” video has been a huge success, at least by my standards, on YouTube.  I experimented with a message board, erotic stories and a site stats page, and my chatroom has been up, down and back up again.

What does the next year have in store for you and I?  Likely more of the same but I’ll be making an effort to do more pics outside the relative safety of a controlled lighting environment, although I’m aware it may increase interest at the expense of image quality.

Thank you to all of you who visit here .. some regularly and some rarely.  Especially those of you who take the time to comment.  I put myself out there into the big pie, and only hope to get a little slice for myself.

Stay tuned!



My Chatroom

I’ve decided to revive my chatroom.  I’ll be there faithfully during the specific hours mentioned on the page and whenever possible outside those hours.  Please drop by to say “Hi” if you have the opportunity.  It’s usually pretty quiet in there so it can be a good opportunity to chat one-on-one.

New Transgender Event in Ontario

I’ve added a link to my friend Nicolle’s web store on my Stuff page. Nicolle is a hard working girl who goes to great lengths to bring you the things you want, in the sizes you need and at the best possible price.

Please take a minute to check out Genie – The Crossdress Store.  She carries all of the essentials as well as tons of fun stuff.  She really is “giving special girls an alternative”.

Nicolle is also organizing a very special weekend event. “An Alluring Affair” is happening on November 6-8 2009 at the very luxurious Deerhurst Resort here in Ontario.  In case you’re not familiar with Deerhurst, it truly is one of the finest resorts in Ontario and will be the venue for the 2010 G-8 world leader summit.  The event is all-inclusive (I believe cocktails and spa treatments are the only things not included, but please check the event page to be sure) and is a wonderful opportunity for those who never get out, as well as those who get out frequently, to enjoy a weekend of fun and pampering in a non-judgmental environment.  The facility is top-notch, the staff are wonderful and the food … OMG!  The event page can be found here.

I have a busy schedule at that time this year but am working hard to clear those days.  I really want to attend this one as a special treat to myself.

If you’re planning to attend, and can commit in the near future, please email me here to let me know.  I’d love to party with you there!

You deserve this!

A guy is walking the Vegas Strip ……

I thought I’d share this with you. Some of you will understand this intimately, and hopefully agree!

A guy is walking the strip in Las Vegas and a fantastic-looking Vegas hooker catches his eye.

He strikes up a conversation and eventually asks the hooker, “How much do you charge?”  The Hooker replies, “It starts at $500 for a hand-job.” The guy says, “$500 dollars!  For a hand-job!  Holy crap!  No hand-job is worth that kind of money!”

The hooker says, “Do you see that Denny’s on the corner?”  “Yes.”  “Do you see the Denny’s about a block further down?”  “Yes.”  “And beyond that, do you see that third Denny’s?”  “Yes.”  “Well,” says the hooker, smiling invitingly, “I own those.  And I own them because I give a hand-job that’s worth $500.”  So the guy says, “What the hell?  You only live once.   I’ll give it a try.”

They retire to a nearby motel.

A short time later, the guy is sitting on the bed realizing that he has just experienced the hand-job of a lifetime, worth every bit of $500.  He is so amazed he says, “I suppose a blow-job is $1,000?”  The hooker replies, “$1,500.”  “I wouldn’t pay that for a blow-job!”  The hooker replies, “Step over here to the window, big boy.  Do you see that casino just across the street?  I own that casino outright.  And I own it because I give a blow-job that’s worth every cent of $1,500.”  The guy, basking in the afterglow of that terrific hand-job, decides to put off the new car for another year or so and says, “Sign me up.”

Ten minutes later, he is sitting on the bed more amazed than before.  He can scarcely believe it but he feels he truly got his money’s worth.  He decides to dip into the retirement savings for one glorious and unforgettable experience.  He asks the hooker, “How much for some pussy?”  The hooker says, “Come over here to the window, I want to show you something..  Do you see how the whole city of Las Vegas is laid out before us:  All those beautiful lights, gambling palaces, and shows?” “

Damn!” the guy says, in awe, “You own the whole city?”  “No,” the hooker replies, “but I would… if I had a pussy.”

Thought you might like that .. especially if you visit sites like mine 🙂  But where do I find guys like that?  Back-to-back O’s and he’s looking for more?

Back from Hiatus

Well after a short but necessary hiatus I’m back.  My apologies to those who emailed me or came by to look for updates during my absence.  If this was a pay site I would have honored my obligations and continued the weekly updates but since it isn’t, I was able to put things aside for a while with a clear conscience.

So, look for new photos on a weekly basis and even a new video or two.  And again, your feedback is always appreciated.  My service agreement with my hosting service expires soon so your words will help motivate me to renew.

Oh sure, there are younger, sexier gurls out there and many who like to lose their panties for the camera, but I’m hotter … in a sick and twisted way .. and best of all, I’m free!

Stay tuned.

Extreme Heels and Vanessa Thompson

I have a couple exciting things to share with you!

6 Inch Heels Forever

For a long time I’ve been considering buying high heels from an online store called “6 Inch Heels Forever” but have been a little concerned about buying directly from China and frankly I find their website a little difficult to navigate.  Their heels are quite extreme, very unique and absolutely gorgeous, in my opinion.

Well, I recently learned that they have opened a retail store in Toronto!!!  I am sooo there .. but it might take a couple weeks to get there.  I’m interested in learning how “walkable” some of their extreme arch styles are.

After I go shopping I’ll be sure to add a photo album or two here for those of you who are as into heels as I am.  And if anyone is looking for a gift for me, please consider something from these guys.  A little pricey, but I’m worth it .. or not .. *giggling*

Vanessa Thompson

Now, I rarely endorse anyone here on my site but I have to tell you about someone I met recently who I think the world needs to know about. Vanessa Thompson is an extremely talented singer-song writer, is drop-dead gorgeous and has the voice of an angel.

She gave me permission to mention her here.  Please check out her website and her videos on YouTube. And while you’re there, spend a dollar or two to download her music. Who knows, if we’re all really nice to her, she might just let me post her photo on my “Friends” page.

Vanessa, I wish you all the best in your career.

Where My Head Is

You know how I love the heat.  Well finally, it’s getting hot here in the desert southwest.  It’s going from unseasonably cool to unseasonably warm in about 48 hours.  The 60’s are leaving and the 100’s are coming!  And better still .. the night time temperatures will not be dropping below 60.  That’s more like it.

Soooo .. it’s not like I don’t spend enough time each day responding to electronic messages.  I’m making things even more complicated.  Alt dot com, MySpace, Yahoo, Yahoo Groups and Yahoo360, Windows Live, YouTube, URNotAlone, FetLife .. and now Twitter.

A wise person once said that it’s better to do a few things really well than it is to do a million things poorly but I just can’t resist.  I guess I continue to search of the one social networking world that works for me.

But when I reflect on this, I realize that this public thing … fitting in, feeling comfortable … is still very elusive to me.

Within my primary relationship, things are fabulous as always. so I’m really in a happy stage of my life.  But when I try to exist outside of that, things get very hazy and somewhat difficult, very quickly.

Sooooo .. in a nutshell, here’s where I am.  Struggling, as always, to find my public place.  Making photos for you and for me, and maintaining a website.

Is Twitter my “silver bullet”?  I’m sure it is not.  But if it’s good for Ashton Kutcher, it must be good for me .. haha!.  He’s just attained the lofty goal of 1 million followers on Twitter .. the first person to get there.  I’m hoping for a hundred, and a tiny, yet comfortable, place in the world outside my private life.

We’ll see.

Desert Vacation

SeleenaK_7886sAhhhh … the warmth of the desert sun! After many days on the road, I arrived on April 1st.  Sunny, warm, cloudless skies.

I just got settled in time for my Barbie to arrive from the Pacific northwest.  We had a great time and I look forward to getting together with her again.

So now it’s relaxation, a little southern AZ exploration and hopefully a side trip to SoCal to hang with old friends, maybe meet some new ones and check out the club scene there.

Oh .. and I look forward to doing more photos for this website and maybe even a video.

Does it get any better than this???

Road Trip

I’m on the road.  After a long and cold winter at home, I decided it was time to get away for a while.  And a road trip to the southwest US seemed just the thing to do.  Visit some friends along the way … find some new locations for photos .. make a few dollars at truck stops along the interstate! 🙂

So I’m off .. but will continue to update the Photo Gallery on my website as I always do.  Wish me luck!

Another Year …

The new year is here, and really .. it’s doesn’t look or feel much different than last year.  But who knows what this year will bring.

I hope you all took the time to make a New Year’s resolution.  (Is this a North American custom only?)  Hopefully you haven’t already made and broken yours.  But if you haven’t made one yet, maybe I can help.  Try this … resolve to do something this year that you’ve never done before.  Maybe something you’ve only dreamed about, or fantasized about.  Give yourself permission!

Now I’m not suggesting you throw caution to the wind and do something that’s potentially life-altering.  Just something small but maybe something you never thought you’d have the courage to do.  And whether it goes well or not so well, the feeling of excitement will remind you that life is as exciting as you make it.

Me?  My resolution involves hard work.  I’m going to try to learn how to walk more gracefully in ballet heels!  I don’t expect to ever be able to wear them when I go to the shopping mall but being able to gracefully walk for short distances would be awesome.

Now .. I’m starting to get a little worried.  The US Inauguration Ball is just a couple weeks away and my invitation still hasn’t arrived.  New dress and new shoes are ready, and my frequent flyer points are burning a hole in my purse.  So someone .. help me out here!  I promise to be a perfect lady and someone you’d be happy to be seen with. 🙂

Ohhhh .. it’s not that I’m a fan of the guy who the big party is for … on the contrary, actually.  It just seems like it might be a good party for someone like me.

Let’s just see how liberal-minded those people really are!



PS .. and for those of you who are familiar with my circle of friends .. I recently got an email from my favorite Toronto girl who is now living in Argentina.  Micheala is doing just fine and she’s just as sweet as she always was.  I think I need to ask her for a new photo to see what changes the South American lifestyle has inspired.  It’s always a pleasure to hear from her.

Domination and Submission

I’m taking a break from the pre-holiday festivities to get a little philosophical.  If you don’t identify as a Domme or a sub, you may want to skip this blog entry entirely.

Domination and Submission

I read a few things recently regarding D/s that I’d like to share with you.

The terms “Dominant” and “submissive” mean different things to a lot of people. And it seems to me that many are quick to label themselves and take on the behaviour they believe matches that label. But to others, it’s quite easy to read as an obvious charade.

Submissives who “Top from the bottom” and Dominants who believe that rudeness and bitchiness should be respected are everywhere. And personally, I find both types to be offensive.

So this is why the following makes so much sense to me.

Submissive? An acquaintance “mutilato” believes the following, and I agree:

All submissives have at least one of these qualities:

  • Are you lowly and must be degraded?
  • Are you lost and must be owned?
  • Are you docile and must serve?
  • Are you free and must be bound?
  • Are you bad and must be punished?
  • Are you a whore and must be fucked?
  • Are you everyone’s and must be shared?

And “tami” pointed out the following words from J. Mikael Togneri as a way of defining a Dominant:


  • A dominant is a ruler, but never a tyrant. But to rule requires understanding, and understanding requires humility.
  • A dominant has pride, but never arrogance. But pride requires dignity, and dignity requires humility.
  • A dominant commands respect, but never fear. But respect requires serenity, and serenity requires humility.
  • A dominant employs strength, but never force. But strength requires knowledge, and knowledge requires humility.
  • A dominant criticizes, but never derides. But criticism requires insight, and insight requires humility.
  • A dominant receives, but never takes. But receiving requires giving, and giving requires humility.
  • A dominant completes, but never tries to alter. But to complete one must be able to see what is there, not what is missing, and this most of all requires humility.

 In short, to use an archaic phrase, noblesse oblige, if a dominant is the center of a Submissive’s universe, it is because the submissive thinks so, not because the Dominant does. No one is respected, let alone obeyed, just coz.

The truth of the matter is that owning is at least as much work as being owned.”

Seven pillars of life. Seven pillars of wisdom

Thanks for reading … I’m heading back into “bimbo mode” now. “Where’s the eggnog?”

Bimbo Claus

The holidays are approaching fast and it’s time to get serious about preparing.  I’m giving a garterbelt and stockings to everyone on my list this year.  It’s the gift that keeps on giving and you can never have too many!

And the guys on my list are getting them too.  Oh sure, they’ll pretend that it’s a silly gift but alone and behind closed doors it might not be so silly. *giggles*

And this year I’m not climbing down anyone’s chimney.  Squished boobies and ruined heels is all I have to show for it last year. And some wise guy left me cookies and milk with a note that said “for Bimbo Claus”.  Gimme a break! I was okay with the note, I really was, but milk?  Now I’ve done a little forced lactation play in the past but warm milk in a glass?

I don’t think so.

Las Vegas Photos

I’m still chasing around for permission to publish a few photos from my recent trip to Las Vegas.  So rather than wait for permission from the straggler, I thought I’d just remove her photo and publish the rest.  Sadly though, someone else is in that photo and doesn’t get included although she had already given me the okay (Sorry Spirit! .. Some day I’d love to do a whole album with you, Rubber Doll.).

Anyway .. some of the photos are mine. Some are from my friend Nicole. And some are from Gerry Koehler .. a very handsome guy and a very talented professional photographer from Los Angeles.
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