I think I’ve been a Facebook person since 2007 or 2008, and although very little surprises me in life, my own reaction to Facebook continues to confuse me. I know what I should do, yet I find it so difficult.
First off, social media has evolved into a place where seeking ego massages or “preaching to the choir” is the reason most belong.
I suppose, in life, we all tend to congregate with those who’s view we share but if you’re looking for support for your cause, only a coward would ask for support from those we already know support us. Does that make sense?
For example, let’s say I’m an advocate for the better treatment of animals. Would it not make sense that I should plead my case to a group who might be known for poor treatment of animals? Let’s face it, pleading my case to the SPCA is a waste of time, since they already share my feelings. And continually showing the SPCA folks how badly animals are sometimes treated serves no purpose (they already know) except to possibly throw their views of life out of balance.
Likewise, if it’s about politics, go to the other side to try to obtain support; to possibly convert someone from an opposing ideology instead of whining continually to those who already share your views.
If you feel that a particular politician is an idiot, tell him! Tell his followers! Discuss! Argue! But telling those of us who already feel that way just adds a ton of negativity with no chance for meaningful discussion that could possible change opinions.
PREACH TO THE CONVERTED (THE CHOIR) – Propound an argument to people who already support it. ~ phrases.org
So why am I telling you this? Well, social media, in general, and Facebook, in particular, has become a bit of a downer for me, mainly for the reason I just mentioned. I just ran out of tolerance for hearing the same cowardly complaints, over and over again, directed at the wrong audience.
So I started looking at my Friends list and found that I had almost never “unfriended” anyone but rather kept them as friends yet “unfollowed” them, thereby not seeing anything they post unless it’s in direct response to something I, or another “followed” friend had posted. Quite cowardly, isn’t it?
Because those who continually make your day unpleasant are really unlikely to be someone you’d want to spend time with .. online or in person.
Maybe I’m just too pragmatic. But your need to vent doesn’t trump my need to smile. Unless you’re a close friend.
Then I’m here for you.