My 20-Something Transgender Friend

I met a new friend online recently. A very young TS who lives not too far away from me. I won’t tell you her name because that’s not important but she’s one of a very short list of very young trans girls that have left a very big impression on me. She’s as delightful and well spoken as the comedic Jessica Who and has an attitude that’s so different than most of the girls closer to my age.

The baggage and bitterness is not present; no chip on her sweet shoulders. She just lives her life 24/7 as she knows she should.

I’m not expert on the pre-op or post-op thing although I do know several girls who have had the surgery and even more that are anxiously awaiting “the knife”.  For those waiting. the surgery is imperative; it’s non-negotiable and the feeling is that life can never be “normal” until it’s done.

And a surprisingly high percentage of them will take their own lives after the procedure is complete.

But here is a young person who truly believes that surgery wouldn’t make her any more of a woman than she is today.  And ya know what?  I agree and believe she feels that way in her heart.  She looks like any other 20-something genetic girl out there, is very attractive (a hottie, actually .. whew), projects nothing but femininity and has the same spark in her eyes as her genetic girl friends.

My new friend doesn’t hate her penis nor does she think it defines her gender.  And it doesn’t.  The brain is in charge of that.

From my experience, the transguys out there seem more capable of doing this.  The surgery to make them fully functional as males is expensive, and the success rate is not high.  So most move on, strap-on in hand, and give their brain permission to define their gender.  Most are very successful and have friends, families and careers regardless of what’s in their boxer shorts.  And are dudes in every sense of the word.

My friend doesn’t hang around with others like her .. looking for “support”, whining about how nature dealt her a bad hand, and competing in hormone dosage comparisons and cup size competitions.  She (with her parents help and consent) simply did what she needed to do to feel comfortable within her own skin.

She understands womanhood totally and honestly presents like any other girl her age. No scrambling to look like she fits in. She does! Some of it might be the luck of the draw but a lot of it is definitely attitude.

Is she lucky? Maybe. Is her timing good?   Yes .. the world is so much more receptive today than it was not that many years ago.  Is she courageous?  Possibly.  But she could never be a positive example to the older girls who struggle so much. They wouldn’t allow it.

I had always found the concept of hormone therapy and gender reassignment at a very young age to be worrisome at best.  But I now understand that it’s the right time to begin living as the gender you know you were meant to be and medically supervised hormone therapy is a big help.

Funny how a relative newcomer to the t-world can help an older girl like me put things in perspective.

I hope I haven’t offended anyone with my thoughts on this and apologize if I have. But since this is a free website, you can’t ask for your money back. 🙂

I’m home.  Exhausted but it feels great to be back!

My darling Kim and I got to see even more of the US and it was beautiful.  We found Utah and Colorado particularly breathtaking.

SeleenaK_gasThe weather cooperated, and although there was some pretty ugly stuff around us, we had sunny skies every day except for two.
Here is a photo of me doing what I did quite often.  Yes, I tried my best to tone down my look while traveling, and as you can see, I’m not really good at it.  But it seemed like the prudent thing to do .. especially when I know I’ll be using the restrooms in states where I could, in fact, be breaking the law just by being in there with the women.

Anyway .. a little about my journey.

I’ve always been intrigued by Route 66 – “The Mother Road”.  For those of you who are not aware, US Route 66 has been around since the 1920’s and was the major route between Chicago and Los Angeles.  It was also know as “Main Street America” because the road went right through the middle of many American cities.  It was also featured in a television series back in the 60’s.

The road was also featured in a song written by Bobby Troup and performed by Nat King Cole, Bob Dylan, The Rolling Stones, Depeche Mode and others.

When the Interstate Highway system was built in the late 1950’s and 1960’s, the old road pretty much lost it’s relevance.  But it’s charm remains today for those who love the open road.

It’s no longer possible to travel Route 66 from Chicago to LA but pieces of it still remain, often right beside the interstate highway that made it obsolete.

SeleenaK_9978sI decided that a Rte 66 highway sign would be a great photo opportunity for yours truly so I went in search of one with a background reminiscent of the old road charm.  And I searched. Flagstaff, Winona and Kingman Arizona, Gallup New Mexico, Amarillo Texas, Oklahoma City, Joplin and St Louis Missouri for just the right photo … and found nothing.  So just as I was nearing the end of the old road, I decided it was now or never and took the photo you see here.

The area, although quite beautiful, doesn’t have the charm I was hoping to capture but it will have to do for now.  I’ll try to improve on this photo if I ever drive out west again.

It appears that Route 66 signs are a coveted item these days and theft of these particular signs is very common.  Many of the cities on the highway have now removed all of the signs like the one in my photo and instead are putting them up high with the traffic lights in an attempt to deter “collectors”. hehe!

So enough talk about travel.  That’s likely not why you’re here.

As I mentioned, the Viva Wildside event in Las Vegas was a lot of fun.  And I look forward to doing it again some day.  My only regret was that I had brought a ton of video gear all the way there and really never used it.  I was hoping to recruit someone to operate the camera and the help me with my next video production but it seemed that the guys were too busy chasing the girls and the girls just weren’t interested.  Understandable though, since partying, drinking and dancing were their main reasons for making the trip.

So I’m getting my rest now, I’ve done the laundry and am getting the patio at Casa Seleena ready for another summer.  I’ll miss having my next video ready for you on the first Friday of May but will work hard to get something shot soon.

Lots of requests for “leg show” videos coming in so I’ll likely do something like that next.

I’ll be posting an album or two in the coming weeks of photos, mostly taken by others, of some of our hijinks in Las Vegas but I’ll try to alternate them with the type of photos you’re accustomed to seeing here.

Ohhhh .. heels!  I recently bough a new part of heels from UK.  Extremely slender stiletto heels and very pointed toes.  I’ll tell you about them in my next blog entry and will feature them in an upcoming photo album or video.

Stay tuned!