Domination and Submission

I’m taking a break from the pre-holiday festivities to get a little philosophical.  If you don’t identify as a Domme or a sub, you may want to skip this blog entry entirely.

Domination and Submission

I read a few things recently regarding D/s that I’d like to share with you.

The terms “Dominant” and “submissive” mean different things to a lot of people. And it seems to me that many are quick to label themselves and take on the behaviour they believe matches that label. But to others, it’s quite easy to read as an obvious charade.

Submissives who “Top from the bottom” and Dominants who believe that rudeness and bitchiness should be respected are everywhere. And personally, I find both types to be offensive.

So this is why the following makes so much sense to me.

Submissive? An acquaintance “mutilato” believes the following, and I agree:

All submissives have at least one of these qualities:

  • Are you lowly and must be degraded?
  • Are you lost and must be owned?
  • Are you docile and must serve?
  • Are you free and must be bound?
  • Are you bad and must be punished?
  • Are you a whore and must be fucked?
  • Are you everyone’s and must be shared?

And “tami” pointed out the following words from J. Mikael Togneri as a way of defining a Dominant:


  • A dominant is a ruler, but never a tyrant. But to rule requires understanding, and understanding requires humility.
  • A dominant has pride, but never arrogance. But pride requires dignity, and dignity requires humility.
  • A dominant commands respect, but never fear. But respect requires serenity, and serenity requires humility.
  • A dominant employs strength, but never force. But strength requires knowledge, and knowledge requires humility.
  • A dominant criticizes, but never derides. But criticism requires insight, and insight requires humility.
  • A dominant receives, but never takes. But receiving requires giving, and giving requires humility.
  • A dominant completes, but never tries to alter. But to complete one must be able to see what is there, not what is missing, and this most of all requires humility.

 In short, to use an archaic phrase, noblesse oblige, if a dominant is the center of a Submissive’s universe, it is because the submissive thinks so, not because the Dominant does. No one is respected, let alone obeyed, just coz.

The truth of the matter is that owning is at least as much work as being owned.”

Seven pillars of life. Seven pillars of wisdom

Thanks for reading … I’m heading back into “bimbo mode” now. “Where’s the eggnog?”

Bimbo Claus

The holidays are approaching fast and it’s time to get serious about preparing.  I’m giving a garterbelt and stockings to everyone on my list this year.  It’s the gift that keeps on giving and you can never have too many!

And the guys on my list are getting them too.  Oh sure, they’ll pretend that it’s a silly gift but alone and behind closed doors it might not be so silly. *giggles*

And this year I’m not climbing down anyone’s chimney.  Squished boobies and ruined heels is all I have to show for it last year. And some wise guy left me cookies and milk with a note that said “for Bimbo Claus”.  Gimme a break! I was okay with the note, I really was, but milk?  Now I’ve done a little forced lactation play in the past but warm milk in a glass?

I don’t think so.

Las Vegas Photos

I’m still chasing around for permission to publish a few photos from my recent trip to Las Vegas.  So rather than wait for permission from the straggler, I thought I’d just remove her photo and publish the rest.  Sadly though, someone else is in that photo and doesn’t get included although she had already given me the okay (Sorry Spirit! .. Some day I’d love to do a whole album with you, Rubber Doll.).

Anyway .. some of the photos are mine. Some are from my friend Nicole. And some are from Gerry Koehler .. a very handsome guy and a very talented professional photographer from Los Angeles.
——–Sorry .. photos no longer available——-

Website Changes

Well, it’s time for some changes here. After a great deal of thought, I’ve decided to remove the two pages on this site that get the lowest number of hits each month. So my “Site Stats” page and my “Erotic Fiction” page are gone.

I’m not surprised that the “Site Stats” page wasn’t exactly popular. Intriguing info to me but I really didn’t expect you to wait anxiously for the first of every month for the newest stats to arrive *giggles* .

But I must say, I’m surprised that the Erotic Fiction page wasn’t a lot more popular.  Maybe it was my fault for not getting the updates in there regularly .. not sure .. but it certainly wasn’t due to the quality of the stories.  Every single story managed to make my panties uncomfortably tight. 🙂

Soooo … to Samantha and Red Dawn .. thank you both so much!  If the day comes when I can think of a better way to package your awesome work, I hope you’ll both consider helping me again.

Now for some good news .. I hope.  I’m going to take another kick at a message board.  The new and improved version will have a look similar to my Guestbook and will require no complicated log in.

On a personal note, life is great!  I’ve been having a great time but it’s been nothing I can tell you about here.  Sorry!  I’m almost ready for the holidays and have already starting keeping mistletoe in my panties.

Kiss me baby!!!!!